It’s taken me a while to come out publicly with this but here I am! Jeri and I have actually been together for a whole ten years. Holy heckie. That’s a long time! ( You might know as Lorelai and Anya though our nicknames are Tav and Jeri)
Once upon a time I was a girl who lived in Missouri and Anya was a girl who lived in North Carolina. Now, I’m from North Carolina, I wasn’t born there but I was raised in the mountains up towards Asheville andJeri was from Raleigh. We met online through a mutual friend and became the best of friends, introducing each other to fun games, shows, talking about whatever we wanted and opening our hearts up to each other. After meeting her and her meeting me, after spending time together and talking a long while… we decided to be a couple. We were in our teens and we didn’t always know what we were doing… but we loved each other and that was what mattered.
But there was trouble. Trouble because when I lived at home I was pretty badly abused. It’s hard for me to talk about, to type this out and admit that I don’t have a blood related family. They abandoned me. My father passed away when I was 12 and my older brother took his own life when I was 15. Right before I got together with the love of my life. My siblings pretend like I don’t exist. My relatives don’t ‘agree’ for religious reasons.
My mother, at the time, was a very abusive and manipulative woman. I was starved, beaten and isolated from normal society because of a Christian cult that she joined when I was 13. I met Anya one year after she joined that terrible place. My mother was Christian and she suspected, she accused me of bringing demons into her house, of being gay and took away every means of communication I had with Jeri. All except for one.
We sent each other letters, beautiful love letters that kept us both afloat during those years when things were so bad I thought I might lose my life because of my mother. Every day hurt because I was so far apart, she was in one state and I was in another. I was allowed to see her once a year for a few years during the summer and that had to be enough for us. No one could know. Our whole relationship had to be kept secret because of our families.
I was starved badly enough I only weighed a little above 90lbs when I got out of that place. I was sick and keeping my good health has been an uphill battle ever since. But I held on, held onto the things that Jeri wrote in her letters, I found solace in the fact that while things were bad then I knew we’d make it and be together somehow. And we did!
We both decided to move to Colorado and we’ve living together for six years. We have come so far together and we’ve decided we want to continue that journey side by side for the rest of our lives.
There were snags, of course, no relationship is ever perfect. There were people who thought we couldn’t do it but then there were the people who supported it. There were the people, like you, reading this, who believed in us. For ten years she has loved me when I could not be loved, she has stood by me at my worst and held my hand at my best. I’ve tried to do the same for her. She is one of the most beautiful, loving, caring and amazing people you’ll ever meet. Because of our family situations, as much as we want a ceremony, we just can’t afford it.
Jeri works a full time job, I write music for a living (but i can’t work an official job because of my mental problems), even then we barely make ends meet. That’s why I’m asking for your help. I want to give Jeri the wedding she’s always dreamed of even though we lack the support of our families. We know a lot of people won’t agree, a lot of people won’t come — but what matters most is you guys. Many of you who support us have become our real family and now I’m turning to you to ask you for help one more time. (Hey! At least it’s not a life-threatening medical emergency this time, right?)
Every little bit helps, no matter what, even if it’s just a message of support. We love each other and want to be together for the rest of our lives. Thanks for reading my half of our love story and thank you for supporting us!
I hate beggin for help here but you guys are literally the only way this is going to happen. If I a potato salad can get 40k i think we can raise the means to make this happen, yeah? if you wanna donate you can do so through our paypal at [ firstname.lastname@example.org ] or through the gofundme page. our goal is to raise 7k or higher! thank!